This year we celebrated both boys birthday’s together, it’s so much easier since they are only 9 days apart. We always make the boys their favorite dessert for their special day. This year Joey picked a Cookie Cake for his, and just happened to mention to Aunt Jan that he also loves chocolate cake. Tony picked Aunt Jan’s Banana Torte. She always makes Tony’s dessert, either the Torte or her famous Banana Creme Pie. They are both to die for. Not easy to dose for.
I ordered Joey’s Cookie from a local bakery, they gobbed on the frosting, just like he loves it. I was praying for the nutritional information to be on the bottom of the Cookie, no such luck. Gonna be a hard one to figure out the carbohydrates, along with the Banana Torte and Chocolate cake. That cake was so heavy, and had chocolate chips in it, so it was like a double-double chocolate. A nightmare. But so good. ha-ha
All the kids that were here wanted to dig into that cookie before we even had lunch. There is something about a giant cookie with frosting that drives a kid wild. Including Joey! He wanted that cookie so badly, before dinner, and wouldn’t let up. He was acting kind of sassy, so I had him give me a blood sugar. He was in the 300’s. That explained why he was acting the way he was. Joey is a very mellow kid, so when he is angry, or sassy, I know his blood sugar is either to high, or to low.
It was a beautiful day so some of our guests were sitting outside, and a few of us were sitting at the kitchen table. That’s where Joey sat down and insisted on having a piece of the cookie. He wasn’t taking no for an answer, even though I explained that number 1 it’s before lunch, and number 2, his blood sugar was to high to eat anything, let alone a cookie full of frosting.
At times like this, I try to stay patient and understand what he is going through. Like I said before, Joey is a great, mellow kid. Not a lot bothers him, he is always willing to help me around the house, he keeps his room spotless, and he is very conscientiousness with things like his homework. He truly wants to do the best he can. So when his blood sugar is high, I try really hard to stay calm. Today though, after being up multiple times during the night checking his blood sugar, I got a little snappy myself. I had to put my foot down, in front of my sister in-law, my niece, my sister, and Joe. So, in a nutshell, Joey stormed off, mad and probably a little embarrassed because I had to get firm with him.
The reaction from Joe was in defense of Joey, and my sister in-law took his side as well. 🙂 Of course, Joey is her Godson, and she spoils him. The day before they were at Joey’s school for Share Your Faith day, which used to be Grandparent’s Day until to many kids didn’t have Grandparents to attend with them. So they changed the day to where you bring a special person in your life, you attend mass, then have snacks and an open house. Joey always asks his Godmother to attend with him, they have a special bond.
I felt kind of ganged up on, even snapped to Joe that I am the primary diabetes care giver so butt out. I found myself, defending my actions. Which in retrospect I wish I would have been a little more understanding, but then again, how many times do I have to say “NO” before it sinks in? High blood sugar is like the devil, it appears out of no where and is very ugly. Everyone reacts differently to their blood sugar being high, and for Joey, it’s always been defiance. I have actually gotten mad at Joe for losing his patience with Joey during a high blood sugar, its a tug of war, or a tug of emotions.
So, the moral of the story is that even if it’s your 12th birthday party, and you didn’t invite type 1 diabetes, it crashes the party. But, we all got over it, Joey had his cookie cake, and chocolate cake, and we enjoyed ourselves. And as I look back at that situation, I’m kind of glad it happened in front of others, it may have opened their eyes to another fact about diabetes, it causes chaos at times even though we try our best to not let it. We say that type 1 doesn’t run our lives, we control it, but it’s just not always true, some days it gets the best of us.